Bespoke Therapy

Who We Are

My name is Adrian Spencer

I am a UKCP accredited Psychotherapeutic Counsellor and have been a counsellor/therapist for over 15 years, with in excess of 13000 supervised hours. I am also an EMDR clinician, a trained Deep Release Counsellor, trainer and have been a clinical supervisor for over 5 years.

I offer short, medium or long term counselling in a safe, confidential, non-judgemental and caring environment to anyone, irrespective of age, race, gender, colour, religion or ethnic background. I am bound by and adhere to my professional ethics and codes of practice, (UKCP)

In your counselling, no matter how long, we will explore the reasons behind your problems, sometimes healing the past, always strengthening the present, with a view to improving and managing your life more effectively in the future.

As an experienced counsellor/therapist I have seen counselling as a very positive process, helping many people improve their quality of life, confidence, self-esteem and overall mental health.

Counselling comes in all shapes and sizes and many years ago I chose the integrative approach. This means that instead of knowing and using only one method/model with my clients, I know and integrate all of the main models/methods into my work, thus improving clients understanding and healing process moving forward.

Every person and every experience is unique, therefore, I believe by offering a comprehensive and holistic approach will have a far greater chance of improving/healing people’s situations and mental health problems.

Counselling can make a difference in all aspects of your life and the benefits can be;

Relief from symptoms, such as depression, anxiety, somatic pain and panic attacks.

Processing trauma, PTSD, Phobias.

Giving you a better understanding of;

Yourself and your behaviour, I.E why do I repeat the same things over and over.

How to change your behaviour, feelings and beliefs.

How relationships work or why they do not.

Why we can’t say no to people and why we are afraid to “upset” them.

How to improve your confidence, self-worth and the way that you feel about yourself.

How not to go blank or panic when you are under pressure.

How to communicate more clearly and effectively.

How to handle difficult people.

Why some adults act like children, do the things they do and say the things they say.

Counselling will give you the tools to manage your life in a more positive way, but more importantly, it should help you heal to a point where your need to manage is minimised and that the old triggers, behaviour, patterns etc have been greatly reduced or processed out.

What has become increasingly clear to me over the past 15 years is that as a culture we do not generally know about mental health and therefore we do not prioritise our own mental health. At long last, the media is bringing it to everyone’s attention, but there is still an underlying stigma and keep brushing it under the carpet attitude. Because mental health is not talked about/taught in schools, college etc it remains a mystery to most people.

Clients often say to me that they feel a fraud coming to counselling because there are so many people who “appear” far worse off than themselves.

People do not need to have experienced a major trauma or traumas to have mental health issues, this is a misconception.

If you think of a dustbin liner with one or two major trauma contained in it, it will weigh very heavily on a person. If you now think of another dustbin liner, but instead of containing major traumas, it is full of smaller negative experiences, you may realise that this bag may well weigh as much as the other one and cause as much distress.

At some point in life, everyone will experience a difficult period/s. For some people, these periods come and go quite quickly and will have no real long-term impact on their lives. This may be a person with a reasonable empty bin liner.

For other people the reverse is true. A one-off event can turn someone’s life upside down and can appear to be disproportional to the event.

These smaller negative experiences may have been packed away for years but something has triggered them into spilling out and becoming too much to cope with.

Sometimes it is the least expected things that cause us problems as we grow older.

A growing problem is the message and pressure everyone receives from schools, media, society etc to achieve to whole time. This may be, degrees, more money, bigger houses, the latest gadget, designer clothes and so on. In continuing this huge drive to achieve this or that and obtain "nice things", we generally have no time for the messages that our body is screaming at us in the form of anxiety, anger, depression, somatice issues etc we just push them down and ignore them.

In essence, we disconnect from these parts of us and bury them hoping that they will go away and not bother us. The reality, however, is different, we bury them alive and they do not go away, they stay there and build to a point where we cannot deny them any longer. This then may disrupt and have a huge impact on family, relationships, work, social life, finances and other areas. The biggest impact is on you, your mental health and your future.

If you require any more information or would like to enquire about counselling for your self or someone else please give Bespoke Therapy a call or e-mail us. (See the contact us page).

My qualifications are:

BSc Hons (Integrative Counselling)

Level 5 Supervision Diploma.

EMDR Clinician

Deep Release Trained Counsellor.

Certificate in education and training.

Life Coach

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